
I’ve just returned from Costa Rica—a humid, heart-opening, and perspective-giving holiday that felt a little like magic. My friend got married (she made a stunning bride), and while the whole trip was beautiful, the biggest gift I came home with was perspective.
So now, I’m asking myself a bunch of questions—like these:
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How do I want to spend my time—and with whom?
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Am I building a life I truly love, or one that just looks good on paper?
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How can I live more, and experience less “noise”?
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How are Preston and I really connecting these days?
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Can we travel more?
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How can I be on my phone less? (I just did a phone detox—highly recommend.)
So many of the women I coach are quietly asking similar questions:
Can I want more, even if life already looks good?
Is it okay to feel unsure about the job, the schedule, the identity that once made me feel successful?
What would it look like to choose differently?
Here’s what I’m learning:
The questions don't always mean you need to decide.
Sometimes, they're simply asking you to explore.
To give your imagination space to play.
To be curious again.
One thing I've learned to do well is give myself permission to daydream. I don't shut ideas down just because they feel wild, uncertain or impractical. I let them marinate. I try them on. I give God room to surprise me. Because I'm not committing–I'm exploring.
Of course it’s daunting.
Uncertainty always is.
And I’m refusing to make my questions the problem.
Instead, I’m treating them as a sacred invitation to evolve.
So here’s an idea - if you’re standing in a similar in-between:
Give yourself a 90-day “What If” Season.
A sacred wandering.
A sabbatical of sorts—where you don’t pressure yourself to know or monetize or figure it all out. You just let yourself explore.
Some ideas for your “What If” Season:
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Volunteer in a new environment
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Consult in someone else’s business or brand
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Write, teach, or create without optimizing
- Take that class you've been dreaming about
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Rest and receive inspiration again
Just because you’re asking questions doesn’t mean you’re lost.
It means you’re growing.
It means you’re listening.
And that, my friend, is not failure.
That’s evolution.
With Love,
Sarah x