Do You Shame Other Women?

About a year ago, I wrote a blog that I was advised, by someone I trusted, to hold back on submitting to my regular outposts like Medium and Huffington Post because it was controversial.

In hindsight, I listened too much to this person and not enough to my own voice.

It’s about my feelings about how fellow women in the coaching space behaved about the 2017 election of Trump. I was unsettled and turned off by their outright railing of Trump. I want to be clear. I did not vote for Trump. However, there were moments I felt less of a woman because I wasn’t jumping on this so-called feminist bandwagon.

In Brene Brown’sBraving the Wilderness, I came across a quote. I literally started jumping out of my skin as I was reading it. I found myself thinking, This is exactly what I was feeling and expressing a year ago when I wrote my blog on election day.  

Here it is:

“Here’s what I believe: 1. If you are offended or hurt when you hear Hillary Clinton or Maxine Waters called bitch, whore, or the c-word, you should be equally offended and hurt when you hear those same words used to describe Ivanka Trump, Kellyanne Conway, or Theresa May. 2. If you felt belittled when Hillary Clinton called Trump supporters “a basket of deplorables” then you should have felt equally concerned when Eric Trump said “Democrats aren’t even human.” 3. When the president of the United States calls women dogs or talks about grabbing pussy, we should get chills down our spine and resistance flowing through our veins. When people call the president of the United States a pig, we should reject that language regardless of our politics and demand discourse that doesn’t make people subhuman. 4. When we hear people referred to as animals or aliens, we should immediately wonder, “Is this an attempt to reduce someone’s humanity so we can get away with hurting them or denying them basic human rights?” 5. If you’re offended by a meme of Trump Photoshopped to look like Hitler, then you shouldn’t have Obama Photoshopped to look like the Joker on your Facebook feed. There is a line. It’s etched from dignity. And raging, fearful people from the right and left are crossing it at unprecedented rates every single day. We must never tolerate dehumanization—the primary instrument of violence that has been used in every genocide recorded throughout history.” 

I couldn’t get on board with language that made Trump subhuman during a clamor for more humanity so women could rise.

I remember how I felt when I wrote that blog. I rushed out the door to write it after I heard the election result. Heart, courage, excitement and inspiration was flowing through my veins. Working from that place is such a remarkable experience. Here’s to more of them, more often.

Thank you, Brene, for helping me have more conviction in my own thought process when I felt I was the only one.

Thank you for reminding me about the power of my own words.

This blog isn’t about politics. It’s about the ability to find our voice and use it confidently in the world when we use love and intention as our guiding principles.

It’s about aligning with people who help us believe in ourselves just that little bit more, and who help us find more articulate ways of expressing ourselves.

It’s about broadening our perspective so we have a human and tolerant view of the landscape.

I feel invigorated about the woman I am and the perspective I have to share with the world. That leaves me feeling more juicy than ever.

What perspective would you like to share with the world that, until now, you have been sharing too quietly? Leave your answer below.

To Your Amazing Spirit.

Much Love,
Sarah xxx