Hi, I’m Sarah,
When I was 4 I wanted to be the first female President of the United States. Thinking big is in my bones. Part of my juicy woman practice is learning how to harness that superpower without feeling burned out and disillusioned.
When I was 10, 13, 14, 17, 18 and 21, I lost a best friend that was everything to me. I didn’t know how to have long-term friendships and feel loved and accepted for who I was. I wanted that friend to be everything to me, which is too much of a burden for any one person to bear. I did the same with my husband, Preston, when we first met, and for many years into our relationship.
Today I have some spectacular friendships and I’m learning how to love people for who they are. Because of my all-in mentality, I still question if a relationship is right when things get uncomfortable, I feel disappointed or misunderstood. Thinking it and acting on it are two different things so today I give myself grace. I have immense gratitude for learning to recognize my part in the interaction have the hard conversations. As Preston says about our marriage, and it applies to all relationships, “It’s one thing to catch, it’s another thing to hold, even when you don’t want to.”
When I was 16 I went on an expedition to Costa Rica and my nickname was Honest. As a younger woman, my honesty often got me in trouble. Part of feeling like a juicy woman is being able to speak my truth with love, and letting go of how others receive it. That’s their business. I feel really good about how I practice today. When I mess up, I know how to say sorry.
When I was 17, I dreamed of getting paid to have intimate conversations. When I was 26 I came across an article about a Life Coach and realized I could. It was a light bulb moment for me having never heard of coaching until point.
The sum of all my life experiences before coaching, which were pretty extensive, were fueled by one thing; a desire to follow what sparked passion in my heart. Today, I would say it was the path of my inner juicy woman.
I have been coaching women for over 10 years, from senior executives at large corporations to young women graduating from college, and the 3 questions that EVERY woman has fundamentally asked me are: Do I matter?, Did I do ok?, and Do I have the courage to follow through on what I think?
I ask these questions, too. Some days, the answers are effortless, others, I struggle just like you. What is true, however, is that I have many more days that are effortless. That’s the gold prize for me.
I was at an Oprah event in 2013 and a group of people were stood around dancing in the hallway. One by one, with a DJ off to the side, they would claim their space in the middle of the circle and dance. They seemed so free. I wanted to dive in, but I couldn’t get my feet to move. Every time I thought about it, I came up with another story about how stupid I’d look, or maybe I’m not as cool as I think I am. It was a small but significant moment. I felt so frustrated and ashamed that I couldn’t get into the circle.
We come face to face with our own version of that circle on a regular basis. Moments where we want to dive in, and instead, we pull back. This is the difference between doubting ourselves and feeling confidently expressed.
My juicy woman has become very attuned to that pulled-back feeling, which is my cue to dive in and get right to the business of attending to me. In all of my retreats, I curate experiences to help women dive in.
In the last year I have walked though depression and suicidal thinking. With all my years of coaching expertise, a big toolbox, and lots of special people in my life, it was an experience that brought me to my knees. It has turned out to be one of the most special experiences in my life. In sharing this, I have learned that I can use my voice confidently in ways I never imagined possible, the question, “What do I think?” is the most important feedback loop in my life meaning I have to build an even deeper intimacy with myself, and I have been stripped of a facade that was holding me back.
I feel really courageous in the way I live my life. For me change always begins with radical honesty. That’s my first port of call for confidently expressing myself.
Here’s to the journey of courageously liberating our spirits together,
Love, Sarah xxx